Friendsgiving And A Greater Lesson On Choosing Family!

I love the concept of Friendsgiving. It brings the conversation of chosen family to the forefront. I attended my first one, last year, although I had no desire to go. My son and I had just landed the night before coming from the US and back to Chongqing, China where we were based and I was extremely tired. My husband was excited because it was being hosted by other Black American expats and since we had yet to meet other people, I went. That night I met some of the most authentically kind people I’ve ever come across.

These people extended an invite without any prerequisites outside of bringing a dish. Everyone was simply excited to just have a great time together. And these people till this day still check up on my family (husband and son) and I.

As I see the growing trend on social media it offers a nostalgia that the actual holiday kind of took away. Friendsgiving is choosing to be around the right people, in the right space to truly enjoy each other and fellowship. There’s no forceful “we have to go” because either people are going to talk shit if we don’t or talk shit if we do and we need to catch it. You don’t have to be almost engaged or finally going to medical school to come for Friendsgiving. The people there are accepting of who you are and where you are, in whatever stage you’re in. Family.